On The Topic of Bleaching, Chemically Mutilating , and Straightening Hair

For those who do not agree with the practice of altering one's natural hair texture I would like to share some insight into the reasoning behind the choice of some black women to alter their natural hair texture. I would like people to try and develop some sympathy or understanding of this viewpoint and not dismiss it or ignore it. I know it can be difficult especially for men or those who have always had natural hair to relate but I would hope that those of you who have not experienced the issue would try to understand it. 

Throughout childhood, adolescence and young adulthood it is communicated to you through friends, family, associates, strangers on the street, TV, music, movies and all forms of media that tightly coiled hair (commonly referred to as nappy, kinky, or coarse) is considered to be ugly, bad, disgusting and unattractive. What would be the incentive to wear you hair naturally especially if your hair looks like the texture of hair that is ridiculed, put down, shamed, hated etc. There are exceptions. Some people grow up in an environment that supports wearing hair in it's natural state. But it seems as if this situation is the exception and not the rule. Another exception are those who have natural hair that is considered to be "acceptable" or "good" i.e. not too "nappy" or semi-straight, loosely curled or wavy. There does not seem to be an issue with those that have "acceptable" or "good" hair wearing their hair in it's natural state. They are even praised or complemented for having nice hair, good hair or pretty hair.

Some black girls and women have had relaxers, weaves, extensions etc. applied to their hair since they were children and have never seen their natural hair. When they have tried wearing their hair naturally their parents, family, friends, boyfriends etc. have made derogatory and hurtful comments in response to them wearing their hair naturally. Some people have wonderful self esteem that is unaffected by what others think of them but this is not the case for everyone and it can be hurtful to be on the receiving end of negative  comments from family and other black people.